I have a problem with being consistent with my posts, and well most things to be honest. Although, I have big ambitions, I don’t always and mostly never follow through with my plans. I’ve realized that most of my downfalls can be attributed to the fact that I always become so engrossed in my huge ideas that I lose sight of the small steps and little accomplishments I have made to progressing to my goals. I also feel hopeless when my ultimate goals are so far away from where I am that I just shut down. One thing I’ve decided to do to continue towards achieving my goals and not giving up is to not only celebrate the small milestones, but to also remember that I need to keep taking small baby steps forward even when I tumble and fall backwards in my progression. I logged on to this blog tonight originally to post something but I didn’t really have anything in mind. As I looked through the analytics of the paltry handful of visitors I have (I really appreciate you all! I fall into the trap that social media and the internet brings of likes and shares meaning popularity), I noticed a notification “You’ve received 100 likes on your blog”. For some this might not seem like a lot, but for me at that particular moment, it gave me an immense feeling of elation and gratitude for all those who browse random blogs and have found something of worth or value in this one. My musings are more often than not streams of consciousness that I rarely edit if ever, maybe a word here or there, but that happens on the fly. So I don’t usually see any meaning in what I write, and I’ve stated this before, this blog is mostly for me to have a space where I just muse to myself. I do appreciate all of you people who do take the time to read, like, comment and share (although I don’t think many people share this). I gives me hope that maybe, I am making a difference in the lives of strangers (albeit a really small insignificant one probably). I’ll never know the impact I have on others, or whether I even have any impact on people at all. Maybe that’s how life is supposed to be, just go about doing good, regardless of whether or not you make a difference in the world. Go about chasing your dreams despite any negative thoughts you may come across. Move forward with the belief that you’re being honest to yourself and your God (should you choose to believe in a higher power). As long as you keep taking small steps, celebrating the little milestones, never stopping your journey forward towards whatever drives you and your passions.
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So this happened to me last week and I’m still a bit miffed by this thing that happened to me last week. I was at work, when a customer came up to me and said “magandang hapon” which for those of you who don’t speak Tagalog means Good Morning in English. Like many of you, I had no clue what was being said because I’m not Filipino. The only reason I know how to say good morning in Tagalog is thanks to Google Translate, so basically I don’t know how to say it. Now normally I would just brush it off to ignorance after I looked at him with confusion, he proceeded to follow up with “oh what are you?” Or something to that effect. I responded with I’m Chinese, and I don’t speak Tagalog. He then blurted out some form of “ni hao” which caused me to be somewhat offended. I’m not sure if it was the manner in which this whole exchange happened or whether it was due to the fact that he just assumed my ethnicity. It just confuses me as to why people think it’s okay to assume someone’s race or ethnicity, then blurt out the only phrase you know in their language as if to say “Hey I can speak your language so connect with me on that level”. Now don’t get me wrong here, I do understand the desire to share what you know of another language with native speakers of that language. However I’ve never, despite wanting to greet Hispanic customers, blurted out anything like “buenos dias” or “que quieres” because I understand that I have nothing to follow it up with other than “sorry that’s all I know because I learned some Spanish years ago but have since forgotten most of it and haven’t kept it up enough to carry a conversation”.
I think the reason this irks me so much is because you’d never see anyone of any other ethnicity just shout random English phrases to Caucasians and be like sorry I don’t know anything else. Or maybe you would and I’m just overly sensitive about the subject matter. Is it just me being racially over sensitive or is this something that we as a society should stop doing?
So unless you’ve been in a hole hidden away from media and society, you’ll know that politics is a hot button issue in the social media world. Every few posts I see on my Facebook news feed is either pro or anti Trump, or extreme liberal or conservative. These posts are often met with what I’ll call “radical views” (not actually that radical but somewhat devisive views) and comments. I enjoy reading them from time to time as they sometimes are amusing to hear banter and read the various viewpoints of my friends. The thing that bothers me more often than not is when people debate but back their facts with extremely biased sites. I’m all for debate and discussion and I do see the need to back your arguments with facts but it doesn’t really support your cause if you’re using biased media outlets like Breitbart, the Blaze or Slate and the New Yorker. The reason for this is that the articles and opinions on those sites are incredibly bias.
Why does this matter? Facts are facts right? Well yes and no. Yes facts are facts, but not entirely. For example, if I’m looking at the world through my blue tinted sunglasses, I could look at something yellow and say it’s green, or something red and say it’s purple. Does that make what I see wrong? Perhaps but let’s apply this to the whole liberal/conservative issue. If I watch the Colbert report and see a clip that says Trump is a moron for appointing Betsy DeVos as the secretary of Education and reasons to show why that’s the case, if I had a liberal bias that would just reaffirm my own personal beliefs and then I would share it and think, that’ll teach those conservatives. Conversely if I as a conservative then saw something on Breitbart telling me that the Colbert report is stupid because of these reasons, I would feel justified in thinking that my views were right to begin with and Betsy DeVos should be secretary of Education because she’s the best suited for it (I personally don’t care – I’m Canadian). Biased views will produce bias opinions and it’s easy to find bias in research and statistics if you’re looking hard enough.
Now you might be asking why should this matter? Well if you care for facts and truth then it should matter where you gather your facts or “alternative facts” as it may be. It doesn’t support your cause in trying to change views or opinions, if that is indeed your point in posting anything like this. Yes it’s nice to be on the winning team from time to time but really when you post something from a bias media outlet you frequent and support it just seems like a huge circle jerk.
I guess what I’m trying to get at here is that there needs to be a way to bridge the gap between the two sides. People need to be more open to understanding and open to civil conversation. I understand that often people go into conversations under the pretense that they’ll be civil but when you go swinging arguments using your biased media outlets articles, you’re not looking for a civil open conversation. You want an all out brawl guns a blaze, because that’s exactly how those outlets write their articles. They hope to incite anger and cause contention because that is the very fuel that keeps them going, taking all of their passengers along for the Blazing ride down Slate road watching the world burn down around them.
So last night on a random request from a friend… I suppose you can call her a friend, although we barely talk and even so very superficially, I guess she’s somewhere between friend and acquaintance… On the request from my friend, she asked me to talk to her friend last night to cheer her up because she was depressed. Which is a very strange request in general because she essentially asked me to talk to a stranger. I don’t know what prompted me to talk to her but I agreed and then gave this random girl my number. It was kind of strange because it felt like she was interested in a relationship or at least someone to get her mind off of some guy. As the conversation went on she began to express her emotions and why it was that she was so sad or depressed. After talking for a bit, she asked me if I was still a virgin and then responded with shock and surprise after hearing I was. She then proceeded to probe me on this and it was sort of an interesting realization for me. I know that there are many people in their 20’s that are sexually active but it never occurred to me that people who choose to remain separate from the whole world of sexuality would be a minority. I’m probably making all sorts of unnecessary assumptions and have basically generalized the population in saying that being sexually active is just a norm, which I can’t say for sure whether it is or not because it’s one of those topics that while people are more open with in general. As individuals it still seems to be much of a taboo subject to talk about and usually only with your closest friends and definitely not family.
ANYWAYS, back to my point about sexuality and my choice to remain away from it. People make the argument that sex with someone deepens the relationship with another individual and I don’t disagree with this point, however I feel as if people use this excuse to justify having sex with whomever they’re dating or are attracted to at the time. I’m probably very old fashioned in my thoughts and beliefs but I feel that there are many who jump too quickly into this aspect of a relationship. I think the current generation of young adults often acts without thought to consequences, acting on the basis that YOLO solves everything. I hate the term YOLO and its usages in society, more often than not with idiotic actions associated (another topic for another day). While there are benefits with sex, there are a lot of consequences that result as well. I have a friend who had unprotected sex and she got pregnant. She was devastated and ended up getting an abortion because she wasn’t ready to settle down and have a child. She was depressed for several weeks because this is something that is very traumatizing for a woman. This sadly happens more than is necessary because people think about living in the now and not what could happen in the future. I always like the saying, that we can make our choices on how to act, but we can’t choose the consequences of our actions. Much like a rippling of a stone in the water, while our actions may seem small and insignificant, its reach and effects can extend beyond our understanding and scope of life.
I guess my point in writing this post is just to say that as a society and individuals we need to be more aware and conscious that our actions do have consequences (whether good or bad). We should have intelligence licenses, because there really are a lot of people out there who for some reason or another believe that YOLO makes them invincible. That what they do only hurts them and them alone, but there is never any action that has consequences that only affect a single person. I suppose this rant is sort of incoherent because it was written over the course of a week in short bursts of 20 minutes in my children’s literature class. 🙂 Moral of the story – Think before you act and be prepared to deal with the consequences of life. Sex complicates everything. Stop being stupid.
There’s my two cents for today.