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Overcoming the impossible

The title may be a bit misleading as what I’m trying to accomplish or going through isn’t really impossible per se, rather it’s an obstacle in my path of accomplishing what I want to accomplish in life. A lot of what I’m facing is really personal to me, as in they aren’t things that are influenced by an outside source. At times it really seems impossible to get through but I know that’s just a mental issue that I need to work through by trying to accomplish small things. There are a lot of pressures I feel personally as a writer, a creative, and in general I guess. The thing is that a lot of these pressures I feel are placed upon me by myself because of all the great things I want to accomplish and or become. This leads me to wonder and question a lot whether I am capable of doing such things at all, let along with the help from people around me. I think this is one of the reasons why so many people these days struggle, because of stresses and pressures that are imposed on them from either society or from within as is my case. I haven’t really been too open with everything I’m going through because well it’s just not something I’m used to. Really what is happening is that a lot of the times people such as myself, don’t know how to reach out to others. I’ve been accustomed to the fact that men should be strong willed, and asking for help is a sign of weakness. That isn’t the case by any means, but… maybe these are just excuses as well. I’ve begun to make little changes in my life, doing small things and while I am by no means perfect in everything I’m doing I’m making that effort, slowly but surely.

In any event, my journey over the next few months will be critical in determining my future. No pressure right? Ha!~

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The birds and the bees

As valentines approaches I suppose it’s appropriate to blog about some of my views on love. Well not really so much as appropriate but I feel almost like I need to give into the trend of blogging about love and romance. So first off, I’ll start by saying I am in no ways an expert in the field of love. Nor do I profess to be so, all I do is make observations about what works or doesn’t work in my life. I guess this is kind of funny because I’m not even in a relationship right now and I’m trying to sort out my own love life right now. Basically I’m single and looking. Go figure.

I feel like I’m at the stage in my life where I should at very least look for a relationship, not that I haven’t been in them before but for one reason or another I ended them. But I feel they were genuinely good reasons for ending a relationship, half of the time they were because I had bad reasons for starting relationships. So that’s why my first point I suppose would be, see if you’re compatible beyond your first impression of the person of your interest. I say this because there have been a few times where I dated a girl that I was interested in her looks but I never really got to know them more and once I did.. well. I’m single. I guess that’s all that needs to be said about that.

I think the second thing is that while physical intimacy is important in relationships, it shouldn’t be the central focus of the relationship. Get to know each other, learn about one another, then find things to build meaningful relationships around. Life goals, aspirations, hopes, dreams and wishes. Whatever it is, look for it. I feel like this is just very superficial in what I’m blogging about because I don’t necessarily ascribe to formulas for love. I think when it happens it happens. Nothing you do or don’t do will change it.

If you like someone, go for it. Do what suits you and go after it. If you don’t take risks then it’s not worth it. Anything worth doing will cause you to extend out of your comfort zone and take chances. Like Miss Frizzle from the magic school bus always says “Take chances, Make mistakes, Get Messy!” I think once you do this, if you take chances, you’ll learn to build more courage and confidence in yourself. Don’t worry about making mistakes, because mistakes will help you become better through improvement. We learn through experience, we learn faster through making mistakes. You’ll find what works for you and how to hone that craft that is dating/romance/love. Getting messy seems self explanatory, think back to some of the best times in your childhood. For me it was always either painting or playing in the sand or water box at school. Think about it, those are some of the messiest activities you can do as a child. I don’t know I think those were always the most fun…. where was I going with this?

I suppose all this rant is trying to say is that life is too short to not be spending your time with people in your life who don’t love you. And it’s definitely too short to be wallowing in sadness of failed love, being alone, or not living your dreams. I think it goes back to chasing your dreams. Once you do that and start living your life, in that same manner then you’ll be happy with life, when you’re happy, you’ll be more confident. When you’re more confident well people will want to spend time with you, to be around you and ultimately, when the time is right something will happen. Just give it time, don’t give up and just be who you are. I’m a firm believer that everyone will find love in this life. For those of you who are single don’t be afraid to open your eyes and look at what’s around you. Sometimes you’ll find love in the most unexpected of places. I know I have in the past, and I will in the future.

So as for the Birds and the Bees? Well, they are what they are and they do what they do regardless of whether we pay any attention to them at all. So why not just be happy and keep on living your dreams.

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Chasing Dreams

Right now it’s interesting because I’m sitting in a class about life writing, autobiographies, biography, blogging, etc. While listening to the professor lecture, it got my mind going on realizing your dreams (not necessarily the same dreams that I wrote about in my last post). I think it’s important that a person has goals and dreams in life, for what would a purposeless life amount to? What would be the use in living a directionless life? Sometimes it takes a life changing event for people to realize their dreams, or maybe it’s just something they’ve always had. I think whatever or rather however your dreams may come, it’s important to have dreams and to chase after them.

Life is funny in that there will always be people who will try to tear you down, or make you believe that you can’t achieve your goals because they’re silly and impractical. I know this from first hand experience as Im sure many of you have. This morning for example while taking my grandmother and my uncle to the rehab center to pick up and bring home my aunt. My grandmother was very encouraging and supportive although she didn’t really know what we were talking about. My uncle on the other hand kept trying to instill in me to study something “worthwhile”. Trying to make me think that my English and Philosophy degree was/is a useless degree because there is no career path blatantly attached to my degree. What he failed to realize is the ability to think creatively, or the language and communication skills that my degree have helped me develop and grow. I blog because I enjoy writing. My blogs are very unrefined and they’re almost like a stream of consciousness on a certain topic. Whether you enjoy it or not, I don’t really mind, granted it would be great if I had more people following and reading my thoughts and musings but in the end. All I’m doing is Chasing my Dreams. Of my future? I’m sure my life will be one of fulfillment and void of regrets. While I do have things in my past that I regret doing, I feel all my experience have led me to the understanding of this world as I see it now. Right now, my world is as beautiful as the sun is bright. Cliche’s abound in my life but who cares, I’ll create more and more as life goes on.

Tell me your dreams or goals in life, or if you just have anything else to share, feel free to leave me a comment below 🙂

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Dreams, Nightmares, and Fantasies

As I was talking about things with my friend on my way to school today, we were talking about how she had a nightmare last night and what that nightmare meant. I wondered while we were talking where dreams, nightmares and fantasies came from, or where they went when we forget them in the morning. Do they have physical properties? Or are they completely immaterial and without substance. Too deep? That’s a blog for another time. As our conversation went on about her dreams we began to wonder why it was that we dream the things we do. To me sometimes dreams just seem to be random thoughts and the whole idea of studying meaning behind dreams seems so ridiculous to me, granted I am no expert on the mind or the subconscious where most if not all of our dreams occur, but I feel that much of the authority on dream studies is all random interpretations that are so overly generalized that they can be applied to any situation. Similar to Horoscopes. I do feel however there are times that dreams are warnings to things that are to come, but those are few and far between.

Recently I haven’t been able to dream much because… well I’m not really sure why to be honest. I used to have the most vivid of dreams and they were always some sort of fantastical scene that was so surreal I always knew it was a dream. I would have friends and other people I know in my dreams, I would even be able to consciously control what happened in some of my dreams. But alas, here I am blogging about dreaming when I haven’t had a dream in several months. Possibly because I fail to enter into a conscious restful sleep. Possibly because I lack a muse to inspire my subconscious to dream. Possibly because I do continue to dream but fail to remember them in the morning when I wake up. Who knows really, All I know is that life is much like a dream to me, we live each day being able to accomplish and do so many great things, yet at the end of the day we’re the same as we were in the morning, ready to move on to the next day and do it all over again. Looking back at each day of my life it seems that the memories I have of the things I do are much like dreams, because I can’t recall all the details of the past but only remember highlights of the things that I did in the past. I suppose it doesn’t really matter what the purpose of dreams are, they serve to entertain us and give us things to talk about. But in the end, we all want our dreams to come true, because they also give us hope, and something to strive towards.

I suppose this blogger will continue to try to have more dreams and live each day as to be able to make my dreams come true. For now, I’ll drift off into my daydream as they seem to be the only dreams I am able to have, for now. 🙂

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