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What is Beauty?

So I created this blog post a while ago… For some reason I wrote a title, and put in tags but I never really put anything into the body of this blog entry. I wonder why that was… usually if I take the time to do that, I’ll at least write a little bit… I don’t know why I chose this title… I suppose I saw something that didn’t have a typical standard of attractiveness, or beauty. Recently however I’ve been thinking a lot on the topic of beauty and love, as my mind tends to ponder on these subjects often these days. I guess I’m reaching that age where this should be of importance to me in my life.

I’ve noticed that a lot of the things I used to think were beautiful in the past I don’t find them to have that same quality anymore, not to say they aren’t beautiful in their own rights, its just that this new perspective changed my definition of beautiful. Now I’m not necessarily talking about physically attractive features of people as I think we can all agree there are some people who are just blessed with physical beauty. The specifics of who is and isn’t beautiful then become very subjective but on a whole there are some people, celebrities like Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, George Clooney, etc, who we can say are beautiful. I’ve been talking about the everyday beautiful that we see all around us, usually these are things that are made beautiful because of our passion for that thing, or for our love for whatever it is.

I really think our attitudes toward something can cause us to see things almost in a fantastical way. I suppose that would be the wrong word to use, but I guess lets use my own experiences to sort of illustrate what I mean. About a year ago there was a girl I met who, I thought at first was not attractive. As I got to know her better and developed an attraction to her, I felt like she became pretty or beautiful because I was in love with her. The closer I grew to her the more attractive or beautiful she became. My love and passions caused me to see her through a filter of love that made up for her imperfections and made her perfect to me. Now things between me and this girl have since died off and I no longer have an attraction towards her but looking at her now, that beauty that I saw while infatuated with her, I’ve noticed has not entirely gone away. It’s as if there is some residue of love that will always stay with you, or at least me. I feel like even the people in my life that I am not necessarily fond of, I still can see them not as they appear but as they should be seen (If that makes any sense at all). Like I feel like I’ve been able to develop this ability to see more inner beauty in people because everyone is beautiful in their own rights and regards. Even the vilest of people, or the physically unattractive all have beauty. Sometimes it may be harder to see than others but I think that it all is something that can be seen through perspective. Are there things in my life that I have overlooked? Probably and there are probably many things that need to be recognized for what they are. There is beauty all around us and sometimes we look so much for something that is so stunning and grandiose that we overlook the little things in our lives that are so simple yet so beautiful. I’m not saying I’m able to see, find and appreciate everything that I see, however I feel that there are many things, places or people in our lives that we need to appreciate more and recognize that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, we just need to broaden our scope of vision and in a way, stop and smell the roses.

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The birds and the bees

As valentines approaches I suppose it’s appropriate to blog about some of my views on love. Well not really so much as appropriate but I feel almost like I need to give into the trend of blogging about love and romance. So first off, I’ll start by saying I am in no ways an expert in the field of love. Nor do I profess to be so, all I do is make observations about what works or doesn’t work in my life. I guess this is kind of funny because I’m not even in a relationship right now and I’m trying to sort out my own love life right now. Basically I’m single and looking. Go figure.

I feel like I’m at the stage in my life where I should at very least look for a relationship, not that I haven’t been in them before but for one reason or another I ended them. But I feel they were genuinely good reasons for ending a relationship, half of the time they were because I had bad reasons for starting relationships. So that’s why my first point I suppose would be, see if you’re compatible beyond your first impression of the person of your interest. I say this because there have been a few times where I dated a girl that I was interested in her looks but I never really got to know them more and once I did.. well. I’m single. I guess that’s all that needs to be said about that.

I think the second thing is that while physical intimacy is important in relationships, it shouldn’t be the central focus of the relationship. Get to know each other, learn about one another, then find things to build meaningful relationships around. Life goals, aspirations, hopes, dreams and wishes. Whatever it is, look for it. I feel like this is just very superficial in what I’m blogging about because I don’t necessarily ascribe to formulas for love. I think when it happens it happens. Nothing you do or don’t do will change it.

If you like someone, go for it. Do what suits you and go after it. If you don’t take risks then it’s not worth it. Anything worth doing will cause you to extend out of your comfort zone and take chances. Like Miss Frizzle from the magic school bus always says “Take chances, Make mistakes, Get Messy!” I think once you do this, if you take chances, you’ll learn to build more courage and confidence in yourself. Don’t worry about making mistakes, because mistakes will help you become better through improvement. We learn through experience, we learn faster through making mistakes. You’ll find what works for you and how to hone that craft that is dating/romance/love. Getting messy seems self explanatory, think back to some of the best times in your childhood. For me it was always either painting or playing in the sand or water box at school. Think about it, those are some of the messiest activities you can do as a child. I don’t know I think those were always the most fun…. where was I going with this?

I suppose all this rant is trying to say is that life is too short to not be spending your time with people in your life who don’t love you. And it’s definitely too short to be wallowing in sadness of failed love, being alone, or not living your dreams. I think it goes back to chasing your dreams. Once you do that and start living your life, in that same manner then you’ll be happy with life, when you’re happy, you’ll be more confident. When you’re more confident well people will want to spend time with you, to be around you and ultimately, when the time is right something will happen. Just give it time, don’t give up and just be who you are. I’m a firm believer that everyone will find love in this life. For those of you who are single don’t be afraid to open your eyes and look at what’s around you. Sometimes you’ll find love in the most unexpected of places. I know I have in the past, and I will in the future.

So as for the Birds and the Bees? Well, they are what they are and they do what they do regardless of whether we pay any attention to them at all. So why not just be happy and keep on living your dreams.

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Chasing Dreams

Right now it’s interesting because I’m sitting in a class about life writing, autobiographies, biography, blogging, etc. While listening to the professor lecture, it got my mind going on realizing your dreams (not necessarily the same dreams that I wrote about in my last post). I think it’s important that a person has goals and dreams in life, for what would a purposeless life amount to? What would be the use in living a directionless life? Sometimes it takes a life changing event for people to realize their dreams, or maybe it’s just something they’ve always had. I think whatever or rather however your dreams may come, it’s important to have dreams and to chase after them.

Life is funny in that there will always be people who will try to tear you down, or make you believe that you can’t achieve your goals because they’re silly and impractical. I know this from first hand experience as Im sure many of you have. This morning for example while taking my grandmother and my uncle to the rehab center to pick up and bring home my aunt. My grandmother was very encouraging and supportive although she didn’t really know what we were talking about. My uncle on the other hand kept trying to instill in me to study something “worthwhile”. Trying to make me think that my English and Philosophy degree was/is a useless degree because there is no career path blatantly attached to my degree. What he failed to realize is the ability to think creatively, or the language and communication skills that my degree have helped me develop and grow. I blog because I enjoy writing. My blogs are very unrefined and they’re almost like a stream of consciousness on a certain topic. Whether you enjoy it or not, I don’t really mind, granted it would be great if I had more people following and reading my thoughts and musings but in the end. All I’m doing is Chasing my Dreams. Of my future? I’m sure my life will be one of fulfillment and void of regrets. While I do have things in my past that I regret doing, I feel all my experience have led me to the understanding of this world as I see it now. Right now, my world is as beautiful as the sun is bright. Cliche’s abound in my life but who cares, I’ll create more and more as life goes on.

Tell me your dreams or goals in life, or if you just have anything else to share, feel free to leave me a comment below 🙂

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