I watched Les Miserables yesterday and while watching it the thought came to my mind while seeing the characters like Jean val Jean be gentlemanly. Does society as a whole seem to be marginalizing the chivalrous and teaching young men and women that there is no need for chivalry. I suppose you can say I’m a bit old fashioned but I have always done small and simple things, such as opening doors for women, or when driving people home just making sure they get in before you drive off. Have we become a society so obsessed about getting what we want and being suspicious of others and their intentions that these small acts of kindness seem to be approached with a cautiousness, almost as if these acts of kindness are guises for some overarching plan for some material desire or even sex.
Now I’m not saying that I want to put women back into gender roles of the 1950’s or earlier where they have no rights and should stay at home doing housework etc. That’s not my point in this blog right now. I do believe in equality and that girls are capable of doing many things at the same level or if not better than men. It’s just that it seems that at least among girls I talk to that they’re all looking for a nice guy but not a nice guy (girls are incredibly confusing – a topic for another day). I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have a dream guy or girl because I am guilty of that myself, but at the same time I think there are many situations where people have this ideal in their minds of what they want and they might miss the opportunity to experience something great because what is in front of them is not exactly what they dreamed. I know I have been guilty of that myself at times, but I also have been able to have very fulfilling relationships because I pursued a girl who was not exactly as my ideal dream girl was. (Again another topic for another day)
I don’t think I’m alone in this thought process, I heard on the radio the other morning this same debate whether or not chivalry is dead. For the most part most of the callers seem to have the belief that it is dead or at least dying, as people are losing manners, etiquette and other so called “old fashioned” traits. Am I alone in these thoughts? I probably can go on for a lot longer but I seem to have reached a block in my thought process for now.
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