As I was talking about things with my friend on my way to school today, we were talking about how she had a nightmare last night and what that nightmare meant. I wondered while we were talking where dreams, nightmares and fantasies came from, or where they went when we forget them in the morning. Do they have physical properties? Or are they completely immaterial and without substance. Too deep? That’s a blog for another time. As our conversation went on about her dreams we began to wonder why it was that we dream the things we do. To me sometimes dreams just seem to be random thoughts and the whole idea of studying meaning behind dreams seems so ridiculous to me, granted I am no expert on the mind or the subconscious where most if not all of our dreams occur, but I feel that much of the authority on dream studies is all random interpretations that are so overly generalized that they can be applied to any situation. Similar to Horoscopes. I do feel however there are times that dreams are warnings to things that are to come, but those are few and far between.
Recently I haven’t been able to dream much because… well I’m not really sure why to be honest. I used to have the most vivid of dreams and they were always some sort of fantastical scene that was so surreal I always knew it was a dream. I would have friends and other people I know in my dreams, I would even be able to consciously control what happened in some of my dreams. But alas, here I am blogging about dreaming when I haven’t had a dream in several months. Possibly because I fail to enter into a conscious restful sleep. Possibly because I lack a muse to inspire my subconscious to dream. Possibly because I do continue to dream but fail to remember them in the morning when I wake up. Who knows really, All I know is that life is much like a dream to me, we live each day being able to accomplish and do so many great things, yet at the end of the day we’re the same as we were in the morning, ready to move on to the next day and do it all over again. Looking back at each day of my life it seems that the memories I have of the things I do are much like dreams, because I can’t recall all the details of the past but only remember highlights of the things that I did in the past. I suppose it doesn’t really matter what the purpose of dreams are, they serve to entertain us and give us things to talk about. But in the end, we all want our dreams to come true, because they also give us hope, and something to strive towards.
I suppose this blogger will continue to try to have more dreams and live each day as to be able to make my dreams come true. For now, I’ll drift off into my daydream as they seem to be the only dreams I am able to have, for now. 🙂
I think this year I’ve met a lot of really cool and awesome people, from various places and circumstances. It’s been kind of interesting to see or at least think about what kind of influence these people have had on my life. But what’s more interesting to me is how I came to know many of these people and the power that networking has on life in general.
For example, about a 7 months ago I was unemployed and not exactly looking for a job. My parents had gone to the science center and saw a “help wanted” sign essentially at the gift shop there. So on a whim not really looking to get hired, I applied, just because the job is a minimum wage retail job that’s quite some distance away from my home, about a 30 min drive. In the end I got the job, and decided to just do it as I had free time outside of my classes. Through this job I met several co-workers, some of which went to the same school as me. Several months later, as I was randomly walking around the campus looking for a place to study a co-worker, who at the time I could not recall his name, called at me. Through him I was able to meet a girl who was in several of my classes who I thought was cute but I had never had the courage to go up and talk to her. Since then me and the girl have become friends as there was not too much romantic attraction beyond thinking she was cute. With me so far? Okay so through this other friend I was able to meet several more people among them another girl whom I thought was cute and developed an attraction to. While nothing has come of this as of yet, through this girl I was able to meet another group of friends. So I’ve met people essentially 4 degrees of separation away, all due to a random whim to apply for a job.
At times I wonder what sorts of people will lead me to find my next relationship, or which friendships will be able to stand the test of time. I have noticed that there are some people who were in my life a year ago who are not really there anymore. I’ve also noticed that there are many friends that I do have that have been around for quite some time. Maybe the friendships I’ve been developing this past year won’t last beyond the next few but that’s a part of life. Were it possible, I would want to keep all my friends. Due to circumstance I suppose there are many people that will leave your life for whatever reason. But I think more than anything if people do leave my life, I would like to hope that I have made an impact on theirs, or at least left a memorable positive impression.
On a random note, about a month ago I was going around campus giving hugs during exam time. So this past week I bumped into some people and they had remembered me as “that hug guy” or “the guy who gave hugs”. I kind of did it anonymously and never really expected people to remember me. Go figure, anyways. I suppose that’s my two cents for today
I watched Les Miserables yesterday and while watching it the thought came to my mind while seeing the characters like Jean val Jean be gentlemanly. Does society as a whole seem to be marginalizing the chivalrous and teaching young men and women that there is no need for chivalry. I suppose you can say I’m a bit old fashioned but I have always done small and simple things, such as opening doors for women, or when driving people home just making sure they get in before you drive off. Have we become a society so obsessed about getting what we want and being suspicious of others and their intentions that these small acts of kindness seem to be approached with a cautiousness, almost as if these acts of kindness are guises for some overarching plan for some material desire or even sex.
Now I’m not saying that I want to put women back into gender roles of the 1950’s or earlier where they have no rights and should stay at home doing housework etc. That’s not my point in this blog right now. I do believe in equality and that girls are capable of doing many things at the same level or if not better than men. It’s just that it seems that at least among girls I talk to that they’re all looking for a nice guy but not a nice guy (girls are incredibly confusing – a topic for another day). I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have a dream guy or girl because I am guilty of that myself, but at the same time I think there are many situations where people have this ideal in their minds of what they want and they might miss the opportunity to experience something great because what is in front of them is not exactly what they dreamed. I know I have been guilty of that myself at times, but I also have been able to have very fulfilling relationships because I pursued a girl who was not exactly as my ideal dream girl was. (Again another topic for another day)
I don’t think I’m alone in this thought process, I heard on the radio the other morning this same debate whether or not chivalry is dead. For the most part most of the callers seem to have the belief that it is dead or at least dying, as people are losing manners, etiquette and other so called “old fashioned” traits. Am I alone in these thoughts? I probably can go on for a lot longer but I seem to have reached a block in my thought process for now.
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Do you ever get the feeling that sometimes certain thoughts are placed into your mind for a reason? I mention this because I’m sitting here in my Life Writing class as the professor was lecturing earlier, these thoughts started to flow into my head entirely unrelated to what the professor is talking about.
I’m not exactly sure what purpose these thoughts play in my life as of right now but the can be anything from silly day dreams to potentially life changing ideas. What creates or who decides what the difference is between these two as they are on either side of a very thin line. I wonder sometimes what inspires people or for me for that matter to do things. I wonder how different life would be if everyone acted on the positive thoughts they had and suppressed the negative. Conversely what would life be like if people suppressed the positive and only acted on the negative. I suppose the difference between these two would be the willingness to act upon these thoughts and ideas to not only think about them but to put them into action.
I guess that’s why I’m starting to blog and write more frequently. I had this idea that one day my writing would influence or change someone’s life, if I don’t write then how can my writings change someone’s life? I might not have the biggest audience now but maybe something I write one day will help someone. Who knows. 🙂
It’s morning and I feel like I should be more productive in my life instead of just saying I’ll do things, I would actually do things. So with that being said, I’m out of my bed before 11 (I normally wake up early drive my sister to school then get home and crawl back into bed, although I don’t sleep I lie in bed watching tv) and I’m actually at school attempting to be productive.
I think that there’s something to be said about Canada. A week or two ago people were complaining about the lack of snow and the warmth of the winter. Now it’s about -15 Celsius with wind putting it closer to -25. I personally love it, granted it is bitterly cold but the snow has since lightly dusted the ground as if the world were some cake lightly frosted with icing powder. I do wish there was a bit more snow on the ground so I could build a snowman but I can’t control the weather. People often say they love Canada but hate the cold, that’s always been confusing to me because everyone knows that the cold is as much a part of Canada as Hockey or Tim Hortons is. Well either way I’m loving the weather even if it is frigidly cold today.
I guess this is going to be a regular daily thing here where I just post my thoughts of the day. Stay tuned and tell your friends if you enjoy this. Shout out to the only person who follows this as of right now Errissa, as far as I know at least. How’s Germany?
I’ve decided to step up blogging on this blog, as well as my other blogs. I will try to dedicate this blog to my writings and musings about life. I also think I will finally start up my photoblog and work towards making my dreams a reality with photography. In the mean time, I’ll write short stories and blog posts that hopefully will inspire someone out there to pursue their dreams